I was sent this article a while back, and have finally taken the time to read it. I highly recommend you read it, especially if you: are a parent; are thinking about being a parent; just want to know why you are so screwed up!?!
“Parents are going to ludicrous lengths to take the bumps out of life for their children. However, parental hyperconcern has the net effect of making kids more fragile; that may be why they’re breaking down in record numbers.”
It gets lengthy, so I suggest printing the article. I created a Word doc, and you can download that here, or continue on to the on-line article below.
It is a VERY good read! I too would recommend it! Unfortunately for Hunter I don’t think we will be removing those “bumps”…
Heather, did you read the article? According to the research presented, Hunter will be scarred for life without the bumps.
The other day at the playground, Gus bumped his head trying to walk under some equipment. He started crying. But instead of running over to him to make it better (and controlling the situation), I gave him two choices by not doing anything. He could come to me, so I could say it is OK (kiss his head), or he could go on playing. He decided to come to me (for the moment of comfort), and then went back to playing.
I think it is important for him to figure out, on his own, what to do in these tiny situations. It should make it better for him in the future.
Aren’t you glad that Dad & I didn”t smother you and your sibs. You all turned out great!!! The article was excellent.
Melody pointed out to me that I misread Heather’s comment up above. She will keep the bumps in Hunter’s life, therefore making him a much better person.
Sorry Heather.
Way to clear that up Troy!! đ
Not a problem Troy…I know reading was never your strong suit! đ Good job putting the article to practice!